When creating your personal profile, you answered a series of questions that helped to define your personality and interests for the purpose of matching you with other potential partners within the community; as did every other member in the community. This information is contained within a vast database of users, and is the basis for the criteria you will select in searching for matches that are compatible with your personality traits. The Search tool is your main tool for finding people that match your interests, and the general starting point for using any matchmaking site.
First, you should first take a shot at conducting a search on your own intuitive basis, and see what kinds of results you come up with. Obviously the more specific you are, the more narrow your results will be, and the more generally you are in your search criteria, the more broad the results will be as well. It is recommended that you start out being very specific about your desired traits, to determine if there is a sizable batch of potential candidates for your to select from. In practice, this would mean defining a more narrow age range of potential suitors, a closer geographic area to your home, and greater specification of marital status, behavioral patterns, height preference, and body type demands.
After you do a highly focused search, you may find that you have a batch of acceptable candidates that exactly match your search specifications, in which case, you’re in luck and should add these profiles to your ‘favorites’ list. The ability to define a list of the most interesting profiles you find, lets you first aggregate a group of potential suitors, so you can then read through them and determine who you would like to contact for potential romance. Rather than just sending out Initial Contacts to each profile you come across as you come across them, take the time to identify a small group of potential mates before you start contacting them one by one. This will help you familiarize yourself with each profile you actually decide to contact before you send them a message, and also will cushion your expectations and hide the rejections as it is unlikely that you will receive a response from every person you express interest in.
If you are not able to find an adequate pool of candidates from your initial search results, try gradually expanding your limitations on geographic area and age first, and make additional accommodations as necessary to allow you to identify a small pool of at least 5 potential candidates before you proceed to making an Initial Contact.
Note: Pictures may be a great way to quickly assess your attraction to an individual, but remember that the absence of a picture hardly indicates that they are ugly or unattractive. In fact, in many cases, an attractive woman will be so overwhelmed by responses from guys, many with little or no regard to her match requests, that she will take down or hide her picture in order allow suitors to evaluate her on the merits of her personality and interests alone. Likewise, just about every girl, no matter how homely, has at least 1 or 2 pictures of themselves that make them look far more stunning than their actual appearance. Therefore, it is a good idea to take girl’s profile pictures with a degree of skepticism, and don’t be afraid to expand your search criteria to include profiles with no pictures- you may be able to find a gem in the rough, even if you’re searching in the dark.